How Can a Person Be This Way?
my mom is one of the most hateful people i’ve ever met. she brags and tells people she has done things and visited places– which has never happened. once i wanted to go to the movies with my boyfriend and my brother and she couldn’t give us because she said there was no money. and that same day she bought herself a rock and republic jean (0 each). this year she told us she was only going to spend a little money on clothes b/c there is no money. right now i found out she is going to a spa in new york! (i live in central america and i’m 16). i’m really frustrated because it’s unfair. she also got lipo earlier this year, she pays lots of money for "therapeutic massages" and laser for her face (she thinks it will reduce wrinkles… she’s 43). Around people she acts differently than when she’s alone with her family… it’s like two different people. i don’t like my mother AT ALL! why does she do this things? i understand not all of you are capable to answe this.. at least tell me if you’ve ever gone through something like this and what did you do to resolve it? thanks.
Don’t hate her. Reverse the situation become the mature one. Your mother must have been a beautiful person, all her acts are acts of desperation.As U have said she’s 43. She thinks she’s running out of time. Understand her anxiety. Don’t pity her either. Help her because at her age a transition is sometimes the most difficult of things. In any case allow her this last effort.This phase in your lives will pass. She needs your help.
you can try to talk to her but if that doesnt work avoid her all together.
Maybe hes a selfish tramp.
Well there are a lot of people like your mom believe it or not. Your mom is not hateful she is self fish and that is something that she has to work on not you.
honestly…i moved out when i was legal to (17). for u thats only 1 more year of dealin w/her garbage.
you only have a few more years until you’re free, so stick it out and find a job. My mom was a jehovah’s witness and we would get into screaming matches every day about anything(usually religion related) until she through me out(and my clothes too). Thank god my dad is the greatest guy in the world and he picked me up and i stayed at his house. I didn’t talk to her much or see her at all for two years, even though after a few months she was begging me to come back. Maybe your mom will realize how important you are if you kinda disappear for a while.
I’ll be straight up with you. My friend’s mom is this same exact way. Was your mom spoiled by her parents? My friend’s mom was and she thinks the earth revolves around her. She doesn’t care about other people because she’s number one. It’s awful. I agree with the comment that some day you’ll be on your own and life will be much better.
you can not resolve it. live with it and when you can move.
My mother was extremely selfish and self centered, like your mother, and I hated her for it too.
What I did was sit her down and tell her that she’s not fooling anyone, and that you know about the spa and the liposuction and all of those things. Then, I’d ask her why she thinks you are so stupid that you don’t know what’s going on?
I would tell her that she acts really badly around other people, and you know everything she says is a lie, and I’d ask her why she does this.
Then, I’d point blank tell her to stop lying to you, that you are sick of it, and that she can "go without" if you have too.
she wouldn’t be bi polar by any chance would she