Why Do Some Black People….?
Ok why some black people make fun of you if talk proper of if your like size one or something stupid like that??
Im 10th grade and im black and i just moved to a new school and ever since the first day of school they have making fun of me because i moved from California to alabama and i talk proper and i have a low voice they say things "your just a wanna be white girl, and you need to stop talking so low. you supposed to be loud whats wrong with you?" ugh and then they make fun of me because i have really think hair for a black girl and its really long so they try and pull my hair and ask me do i wear weave or something. i cant help the fact that my moms size is half indian and i got her side of the family’s hair.
or when they ask me can they listen to my ipod and i let them when they go through my songs they make fun of me again because i have some hip-hop on there like "Lil wayne & chris brown" or something and then some rock on there like "AC/DC, Guns N Roses or Paramore" and then they pass around my ipod and say "ew look she listens too why do u listen to that white people music?" to me i thought i can listen to anything my mom tells me be myself and you can listen to any genre of music you want.
When im at this new school i feel like i cant be myself and i dont fit in with some of them. And then now there making fun of me because im 5’2 and im a size 1. and i try to tell them that my family small i have a high matabolism or whatever. gah i cant help it. and now i come home crying and stuffing my face trying to gain weight like them. my mom says nothing is wrong with me but its hard to believe that when everyone else at school is asking me am i anorexic or did i get lipo-suction.
Im proud to be black but some black people just get on my nerves when they say stuff like that. Why do they do that when i keep telling them im not from here(alabama) and i wasnt raised like you. now some of the black kids at school are fine and they dont mess with me and some nice too. im really trying to fit it with them and be nice i give them money when they ask for me for a dollar or something and i give them the answers to my homework. Am i being TOO nice??
sooo my question is why do they like mess with me or with people like me for being a little different?
thanks for answering! (:
♥peace♥
Girl, I’m not in high school anymore, thank GOD, but get comfortable, I want to fill you in on something….
First, do NOT give your money to ANYONE and do NOT give answers to homework. That is NOT the way to earn respect. Do NOT let them listen to your I-Pod.
Now, I went through the exact same thing when I was in high school. I have never been to Alabama or California, but I have a pretty good idea of what you’re up against. Basically, you went from one extreme to another in terms of intellect (no offense to Alabama but I know what the South is capable of doing to a person’s rationale…I am ready to LEAVE the South once and for all)
Anyway, girl, the same thing happened to me….said I was an "oreo", made fun of my music, because I listen to all kinds of music (even though we didnt have I-pods back in the day, u get the point) and sometimes would talk crap about me saying that I should date a "white boy" because I was like a "white girl". It makes no sense, people get angry at stereotypical blacks then they get even more upset when you don’t fit the mold…and this anger comes from blacks and whites.
Unfortunately, you will have to just deal with these folks, but keep telling your parents how you feel because perhaps you could go to a new school, if time doesnt heal this wound.
As you get older, you will come up against questions about your lack of "blackness" because you don’t fit a silly stereotype. Think about when the media was saying Barack Obama wasn’t "black enough", then they turned around and said he was "too black." One time, I was talking to someone about my academic interests and all that, she goes, "Wow, that’s interesting, but you’re still black and not a sellout so that’s cool." Do you know what she was really saying? She was saying, "Wow, I didn’t realize that black people were multi-dimensional and wow, you don’t even seem to be the un-black type of black person." I have had people of ALL races talk crap like that to me before but I haven’t let it stop me. I speak three languages and I’m working on my 2nd degree and hopefully one day I’ll have a PhD. Those people that clown you now will be bagging your groceries in about 20 years…..and btw I bagged grocercies too while I was in high school, so I don’t mean that as an insult
Stay positive and live freely.
Because.
Just be yourself, as much as that seems cliche, just do what you want to do. Dont be bothered by their comments, and soon they will realise you dont care and will leave you alone.
Honey, you’re in the south. You’re gonna’ run into some "world class" racism from every race. Unfortunately, it’s a way of life down there and has been for hundreds of years. Keep being your sweet self- except maybe a little less of a pushover- and remember that, in 2 more years, you will graduate and hopefully move to a place where people are living in this century.
People can be really mean and rude. Don’t let them effect your diet and self image, after you graduate school and move into the real world none of them will matter. and you’ll still be you. It’s a Phase kids go through when they rudely say anything they want to people because they are too ignorant to realize that it’s a mean thing to say. If it gets crazy tell them stop obsessing over everything you do and to stop criticizing you. And ask them why is it matter to YOU what I do? it’s your life, live it how you want. Not how someone else wants.
Girl, people will always talk. Even though I really didnt plan to respond to any ads at 2 am. because I was reading and doing research on here, when I saw this it really shocked me. I understand how you feel because I am 30 years old, Black, and 111 lbs. I am from Michigan but live in the South right now. People in the South do not speak standard english the way other Black people do in other parts of the US. Also, depending on where you live it seems that some Black people are able to grow longer hair than others. My hair is longer than shoulder length. But here in the South alot of women wear weave. As a size 2 now finally, Ive always had problems with people saying things and cracking on me about my size. It made me very insecure for a long time. I stuffed myself so much I believe I had clogged up my colon when I was 22 and had to have polyps removed. I had pl say I had HIV and all kinda of things. Which I knew that was not true, but they can make you feel really bad about yourself. However, the things is also where you are from and the enviornment that are in as well as genetics. I happen to know that Califormia has some of the most small ppl there. I would not think about it. If ppl know they are affecting you they will do it everytime they want you to feel bad. You have to project na image you want others to see. Be confident even if you dont feel it on the inside. And eventually you will be believe it, and so will they. I say f&*k em girl…Youre pretty much gonna be that size until you reach your 30′s when weight just stick on you. Theres nothing you can do about that. Love it…Theyre just a bunch of miserable overweiht teens that are trying to look older than they are in apple bottom jeans so the guys can find them attractive. Do you and represent for all the skinny girls and women of the Black community. Yes, we have white girl bodies, but alot of people will like that as you get older…
Usually Sweetie, I had the same problem and im 23.
Usually its because there self conserned and c’mon ur in 10grade…..crazy crap happens in 10 grade….but girl they do it becuz they wanna make themselves feel better and they r usually jealous
Ignore them. Stay in great shape and continue to be pretty and confident. It will pay off in the long run….trust me.
first off you sound like a really cool person.
i’m sorry you have to deal with these people.
what exactly is white people music? ugh. music can be liked by whoever the hell likes it. there is no white way to talk or black way to talk, as far as i’m concerned there is only a right way to talk and an improper way to talk.
you are from california, a state this is way WAY ahead of it’s time and now you’re in the south.
I am from florida and to be honest, the so called south, which is actually north from florida, is filled with the kind of black people who have many many scars from constant racism.
Don’t you EVER EVER EVER begin believing them.
DON’T GIVE OUT MONEY!!! people will think you have more and will drain you. I am sure they recognize you are different, or else they would not be bothering you so.
Show them how it is to be a person who isn’t defined by race…
show them and they will see that they have been living a lie.
I can imagine that it has been very hard for you. Moving from California to Alabama is literally like going to a different country. Many blacks in the South have scars from years of racism that will probably never go away. On top of that, you are in high school, where most teens love to put others down to make themselves feel better. They tease you because they envy you. Many black girls feel ugly about their hair, so they tease you about yours, because they wish they had your hair. In black culture, especially the South, being curvy and shapely, even a little thick, is considered the beauty standard, so that is why they tease you about your size.
Many of the things you mention I also went through. I was the four eyed "nerd". I was small too and the boys told me you got a butt like a white girl(not a compliment). Best advice to give you: make friends with the ones that don’t tease you, and ignore the ones that do. Never try to buy friendship, they’re not worth it. Look for Mary J. Blige’s song "Work That" to put on your ipod and listen to the words. Keep your head up, girl!!!